Dating Advice Coach

There's a common joke amongst the players within our community that says that when a first guy meets a girl he likes, he'll instantly feel as if he's met a potential wife.

But when a girl comes across a guy she likes, she'll let cupid work its magic and see how things goes...

That couldn't be more true.

Look around you. Haven't you noticed that when a guy first meets a girl he likes, he'll instantly think that she's 'the one'.

He'll think that he's in love, that she has the potential to be the 'love of his life' even though he doesn't know ANYTHING about her at all??

Sounds crazy I know, but as irrational as it may sound, I've done it before myself, and I can pretty much vouch that you and practically 98% of guys has felt the same way too lol!

Why?

Well, that's just how we men are wired to be but now that you're aware of it, it's absolutely crucial for you to STOP yourself from repeating the same mistake ever again!

Think about it.

When you think you've met the 'love of your life', how will it make you feel?

Nervous, anxious, over-excited?

Won't you do everything in your power to NOT to 'screw up' your chances with her, won't you become more CONCIOUS of what you'll be saying, acting and doing in front of her?

Of course you would.

But can you see how much unnecessary pressure & tension you're putting yourself in then?

And the paradox to it all as that the more you try not to 'screw up' your chances, the more you'll end up screwing it worst than ever before!

I'd say the best way to not screw up your chances with women is to play it safe. And believe you me, being 'safe', not taking chances and risks with women is BORING to women.

Why?

Because that's exactly the kind of men that are hitting on them everyday!

Haven't you noticed how when a man first meets a woman he likes, he'll usually act all nervous, fidgity and overly anxious to impress his date?

He'll be thinking "Gosh you're beautiful, I'm soo into you, I just know you'll be a wonderful girlfriend. I'll do anything for you."

Or even...

"You're soo hot, I sooo wanna bang you"

On the other hand, women will be thinking "You're interesting to me. I'd like to get to know you better and we'll see how things goes."

You'll also notice that they are the ones that are usually more laid back when they're on dates.

Can you see the considerable DIFFERENCES men and women approach in dating?

So how's a guy supposed to act around women then?

Well, for starters, STOP THINKING THAT EVERY WOMAN YOU MEET MIGHT VERY WELL BE THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE... duh!!

For me, I'd always be looking for something, anything; her dress sense, her accesories, her handbag, her heels, her actions; whatever it is to bust on her (There's ALWAYS something you can focus on) and turn the tables implying how SHE'S the one who's screwing up her chances with me.

If she's local and I'm from out of town, and she wasn't sure of her directions, I'll just shake my head and go "this relationship just isn't going to work out"

If she fumbles as she's pouring herself coffee I'll shake my head and go "this relationship just isn't going to work out"

Using the "this relationship just isn't going to work out" has never failed in doing 'the job' =)

As we're talking, when she accidently mispronounces, 'eats' or fumbles her sentences (this happens to all of us sometimes), I'll just shake my head again and just breathe a playful sigh... "Are you ALWAYS like this?"

Can you see where I'm trying to get at here?

I'm doing the exact OPPOSITE of what most guys do.

I'm saying "I'm here to get to know you but I'm also here to have fun. Still, I could care less what you think of me but I'm comfortable & confident enough to make fun of you so we'll see where this goes :-)"

David Kwan is the publisher of the Dating & Seduction Online Best Seller, the Instant Approaching Secrets -- the community's MOST COMPREHENSIVE program revealing the most intimate secrets on female attraction techniques and dating strategies.